Educating children by “classic” or “modern” methods?
VietNamNet Bridge - Sex education is not a new topic but it is always a controversial issue. VietNamNet Bridge would like to introduce the below article by Ha Van Thinh.

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A piece of news appeared on the local media last week and it has stirred up public opinion. That’s the story about a woman who taught her 14-year-old daughter how to use condom, after the girl introduced her boyfriend to her mother.

The news was so hot that tens of thousands of people, who are parents or future-parents, have joined online discussions. So far, the classical side has gained the upper hand over the renovated side. Through this case, we should think about educating Vietnamese children about love and sex.

First of all, the thought of the value of virginity (virginity is worth thousands of taels of gold) is the concept of the humankind in the past and at present.

The clearest proof is the Old Testament emphasizes the most fearful sin – virgin’s sin. The later generation called it the “original sin” or “mistakenly eating forbidden fruit.”

It seems that the “war” over the thin boundary to differentiate girl and womanhood is still the war for ever?

To have the right answer for the case in which the mother taught her 14-year-old daughter how to use condom is useless. It is more important to define what right conception is.

The time that water morning glory and salted egg-plant were main food of Vietnamese has been very far away. Today, with nutritious food, Vietnamese children’s puberty comes 5-7 years more early. Information, particularly information about sex, floods the media. Meanwhile, conception of virginity has been different.

The adult cannot neglect that fact and the “modernizing trend”. On the other side, conception of “virginity” of wives is not as strict as in the past since most of boys have become men before they get married. Requiring their wives to be virgin is considered unpractical and selfish.

However, change of conceptions and real lifestyle in society does not mean that we have to neglect of indirectly encourage teens to have early sexual relations, or very early.

If parents agree with the above argument, it is naturally recognized that we need to educate children to see virginity as something valuable and to maintain virginity as long as they can. Teaching children to us condoms must be considered the last measure when parents have no choice.

When parents and the society support children to have early sexual relations, it means the disobedience of the law. Guiding children to use condoms does mean that the children would use condoms in sexual relations with their boyfriends.

Though the age has changed but the majority of society do not support the above way of education, which is temporarily called “Paradise 14.” That early step warns many immeasurable dangers.

Ha Van Thinh