The tragedies of students living far from home

VietNamNet Bridge – A lot of students have got shocked since the day they entered universities. The discriminatory treatment has reduced them to despair.

The “origin discrimination” brings tragedies to students

“Where are you from?” – “Hai Phong. How about you?” – “Hai Phong? You must be very sharp-tongued like other people from there.” This is the conversation between Duyen, a first year student, and three other students sitting near her in the class.

Duyen felt a bit ashamed with the comment and she decided not to make friends with the other students. “At first, I got angry about the jeer. But should I quarrel right in the class and on the first day at school?” Duyen said

La Thi Phuong, a student of the Academy for Journalism and Communication, said that she did not communicate with other students in the same dormitory for one week, just because Phuong is from Nghe An province where local residents have a special accent. She said the friends always complained that they could not catch Phuong’s words because of the accent.

“When talking with them, I felt as if I was a laughing stock for them, because they did not understand my ideas,” she said.

Since the day, the girl has been trying to hide herself and not to communicate with others in order to avoid the attention from the classmates.

A student related that she has been boycotted by the friends in the living quarter, just because of the origin discrimination.

“When I said I was from Nam Dinh, they just laughed hollowly and they keep glacial with me,” she said.

“There are six students living in the same room, but the other five never go out with me. They try not to talk to me,” she said. “They always go together when having lunch or going shopping, but they never accept me.”

The problem is that the people from Nam Dinh are believed to be mischievous. People from other regions whisper in each others’ ears that it would be better to keep away from those from Nam Dinh.

The “preconception” about Nam Dinh’s people has made the student’s life at university terrible.

The undertow

Phan Thi Thanh, a first year student, said that there exists a group of “aristocratic students” in her class. The group comprises of the members from well off families who go to school on luxurious motorbikes, spend money like water and they are all from Hanoi.

Thanh said that the students always go together and keep far away from the students from the countryside. Especially, even the students who are called “rustic” because they are from villages, and also communicate in separated communities.

That explains why, Thanh said, classmates do not know each other. “I feel a complex about my origin, therefore, I only make friend with the ones who are friendly and have good nature,” she said.

Therefore, Thanh, like many other students from provinces, feel a hard pressure in their lives and study. They live and go to school in quietness, refuse the opportunities to communicate with other people, refuse the support from the community and do not intend to help others.

Nguyen Thanh Loan from the Hanoi Industry University admitted that on the first days at school, she had no sympathy for the students from other provinces, because of their “strange behaviors”. However, Loan said she has changed her mind about the friends, thanks to the excursions and extracurricular activities.

“It is not important where you are from. It’s more important who you are and if you are a good friend,” Loan said.

Nguyen Huong