The tomb of Wolahh.
On their own tombstones, youngsters expressed their standstill and negative thought, which originated from pressures from studies, family break-down and their parent’s neglect.
The most impressive tomb of this kind, is member Wolahh’s tomb, which was made in April 2010. According to the tombstone, the owner was born in 1994 and he experienced tense and hard day before his “death”.
The boy wrote on his tombstone: “Tomb! The place where a human being will return. Live, wander, being stubborn, uncontrollable and proud. I build this tomb for myself. The fate kills one person, an innocent boy. I brought here my wrongdoings, hatred, crazy thoughts and affected face to bury them deeply. From tomorrow I will hold my head up to start again from beginning… though I know that I’m going to go far away…”
This boy explained his lamentable situation: “Since I was born, I have been away alone. Nobody recognizes my right to live. I have been always a puppet of my family. Each step, each word of mine is arranged. I decided to change it when I was a 7th grader.”
“I became uncontrollable. My family is well-off. I rushed into the games that are not designed for me. I made fuss, fight, … This year, when I’m a 10th grader, my family incurred losses and went bankrupt. I had time to stop hate them to look back myself. I want to return but it is too late. I have lost my future. I will not live in this life for long. Those who cheered me before have turned their back to me. I have no friends besides me.”
“Looking my mother’s sadness, my heart is very painful. But I cannot do anything when it is too late. How will she be when I – her only child – will go away forever?”
Reading wolah’s tombstone, everyone knows what his trouble is. Hundreds of people burned candles for him to share their sympathy.
“Let the past sleep to stand up and start again though your life is short”. “Let’s overcome everything to return to your family. Just single day is also worthy. Let’s try!”… they wrote.
The tomb owner was consoled by these comments. He answered: “I hope to live well and happily in my last days. Thank you very much for your consolation!” This is the last lines from this member.
Many members in this online cemetery guessed that wolah has passed away and they still burn incense for him, send flowers to him and pray for the salvation of his soul.
Most of people who build their own tombs are teens, who are facing changes of themselves and pressures from their families and society. The tombs are places where they doff their pressure, standstills, mistakes and wrongdoings to continue a better life. These things they cannot share with anyone in their real life.
“Sometimes I thought why I’m in this life? What has the life given me so I have to treat it well? A meaningless life without a single joy…” a member who was born in 1992 wrote on his/her tombstone.
“From now on, the coward and inferiority-feeling human being
inside me has been dead,” one wrote on his/her tombstone.
This member made his/hear tomb to bury difficulties, sad days to have a new life. Someone bury their inferiority complex in virtual tombs to become new people. Some others dare not to confess their wrongdoings to their families so they build virtual tombs to confess and ask for their parents’ forgiveness.
“From now on, the coward and inferiority-feeling human being inside me has been dead,” one wrote on his/her tombstone.
“Let’s forgive me! I have been suspended from university for two years for gambling,” wrote a male student, who is the great hope of his poor family in the countryside.
In a short interview with VietNamNet, doctor of psychology Nguyen Kim Quy was surprised about these virtual tombs. She said that the modern youth are facing great pressure and challenges. Building virtual tombs may be a way to “liberate” standstills that they cannot share with anyone, even their parents.